Mistakes are an inevitable part of life, and one area
women always seem to make a mistake is in choosing a
Choosing a life partner is not that easy and one has to be
very careful. That one decision comes with a lot of details.
You’re choosing someone who would be your parenting
partner and have a positive influence on your children,
eating buddy, gist partner and travel companion.
So, if you make a mistake and don’t choose wisely, you’ll
end up enduring marriage rather than enjoying it.
Some view marriage as a means to an end and rush into it
for the wrong reasons such as loneliness, peer pressure,
financial difficulties and other reasons.
At the end of the day, they live with regrets, wishing they
didn’t make the mistake of getting married to wrong
Here are six common mistakes Nigerian women make
when choosing a husband.
1. Choosing a man because of his outward appearance:
Almost every lady wants to marry a Mr. TDH (tall dark and
handsome) and they despise anyone who doesn’t fall into
this category. They forget that looks fade. The grass withers
and the flowers fade and so does physical beauty. A man
might be good looking but a devil at heart. Would you be
able to live with this man when all the physical things that
attracted you to him begin to fade?
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2. Marrying for money: Determined to have the “better
life,” she marries the first rich man that approaches her.
Money is good, no doubt and everyone wants the good life.
But, choosing a life partner only because he has money can
cause more problems for you than you even expect. You
might have all the money in the world and still be
frustrated. What happens when the unexpected happens
and he stops having money?
- Marrying out of sympathy: You should never marry
anyone out of pity. No matter how hard you try to make the
relationship work, it always has a way of falling apart in the
end. Do not think you are helping anybody by marrying
them. Why sympathize with anybody to the point of trading
away your life, peace and joy?
- Marrying out of desperation: This happens all the time.
Women in their 30s, 40s begin to feel like they are running
out of options and so they would settle for whatever man
comes their way. Such a rash judgment can prove
disastrous. Why will you marry the wrong person out of
- Marrying to please family, friends and society: Don’t
choose a life partner because you want to please anybody.
When the trouble starts, they won’t be there with you. You
will be left on your own. All your friends are married and
so? You came into this world alone and you would leave
alone so why do you keep comparing yourself to others?
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- Marry because of sex: You chose a man because he is
good in bed and can satisfy all your sexual needs and then
one day, something happens and he can’t meet those
‘needs’, what do you do? Do you call it quits or you begin to
cheat on him?
Sometimes, we tend to forget that marriage is an “until-
death-do-us-part” commitment. It should be approached
with caution and for the right reasons not the foolish ones.
Many have made the mistake of choosing the wrong
partner and are still living with consequences. Some have
rushed in and rushed out, some have lost their lives trying
to pretend to the world that they have a happy marriage.
Marriage is not a do or die affair, don’t make the mistake of